I was “the other woman” once. Shocked? Before you start judging, maybe listen to my story first. I wasn’t the other woman in the sense that he had an affair or anything like that, he hugged me and kissed me on the forehead once while still married but that was it. And for the record…we get along with his ex wife great! She is the secret keeper of our relationship and has encouraged it from the beginning. Weird, huh? I guess to you but to me this is normal.
If you’ve been following me from the beginning then you know that we were amazing friends first, that’s how it always starts. We talked a lot, texted a lot, e-mailed regularly, and then one day started hanging out. He was helping me prepare for my big test and the weather was so nice we’d go sit in a park and study. One day we started talking about life and our problems, family, relationships, friends, work…you name it, we discussed it. During this talked we had decided to walk the park. We spent the whole day walking and talking, I think that’s the day it happened, the day he started to fall.
He was honest with his “wife” from the beginning, we never hid anything from her. Their marriage was already practially over. They were married but lived in separate house (in different states) and hardly saw each other. When she was over it usually consisted of arguements over his kids, her job…they just were way better off friends than they were married and they knew it. I think this is why she encourage us hanging out, it gave him something to do and she didn’t have to be around. She admitted to him once that I can offer things she can’t, that I’m around and make an effort to be in his life and she doesn’t blaim for wanting to be with me.
It wasn’t long after that discussion that they made the divorce final. I felt a little uneasy about it. I loved him but I did not want to be the reason for his divorce, I didn’t want to be “that girl.” Hell, being the girl in a 24 year age gap relationship was enough, I don’t need more reaons for people to be against me. He could sense my uneasyness too, he knew without me saying that I thought I was the reason for the divorce. They both assured me I wasn’t, that this was going to happen sooner or later and it was long overdue. His ex wife was the one that suggested we start dating and has been an awesome friend to me as well.
Did I expect my life to turn out like this? No way!! Not even close! In fact, I had plans to marry someone my age and have a family by now but you never know where life will take you. I’m grateful for each day and would not trade my life for anything! I’m happy with my relationship and proud of the man I’m with. Life has unexpected turns but you have to learn to “roll with the punches” so to speak.
On a side note…my big interview is tomorrow and I couldn’t be more nervous!!!!